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Gr8ful4: Mom is home and on the mend

15 Monday Oct 2012

Posted by Rachel Funk Heller in Inspiration, Transcendantly yours

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art, buddhism, healing, mom

congestive heart failure… not much fun

First off, a shout out to all my peeps for your kind words, thoughts and prayers for my mom and me. She is out of the hospital and on the mend. But she is still very weak. I’ve made the calls, so now is the time for friends and family on the mainland to travel here to visit with her.

Her hospital stay went well, she had a very sweet room mate, an older Japanese lady. When her curtain was pulled back, and I happened to look in, she always waved at me. I found out her name was Margaret. She seemed to be doing alright. But when I went to visit my mother on Thursday, I found out that Margaret had died early that morning. When I got there, at noon, Margaret’s body was still in her bed and her family was gathered around. There was a Buddhist priest conducting a ceremony for her.

I sat next to my mom and held her hand, we listened to the ceremony from our side of the curtain. It was very moving, the priest talked about how the Buddhists believe that Margaret’s soul was still in the room, that the family members should feel comfortable speaking in front of her. That she was on her way to a happier place. He chanted words in Japanese and struck a bell several times. It was very moving, and very peaceful.

Of course the nurses were worried, one of them came in and asked, “are you guys okay with all of this going on?” And we were fine. In fact at one point both of my parents had studied Buddhism for a time, so it was very appropriate. My mother and I were lucky enough to have been together with my father when he died, so she has a very realistic sense of what is going on. She’s told me that she isn’t ready to “go just yet.”  So, we will do all we can to make her happy and comfortable as possible.

That’s about all from here. I’m hoping to be back on track with Writing Matters soon. I will keep you posted on mom’s recovery. And again, it has been so heartwarming to hear from all of you. You guys are the best!

 

 

Loving Family Traditions: Knowing When to Let Them Go

01 Monday Oct 2012

Posted by Rachel Funk Heller in Inspiration, Transcendantly yours

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american diet, cooking, food, Love, mark sisson, parents, rice bread, sad foods, staff of life, traditions

Twenty seven days ago I made a drastic change regarding the foods I eat. I have given up sugar, and grain based carbohydrates. I am following the “Primal Blueprint” plan created by Mark Sisson. One of the first things the plan asks is to go through your kitchen and get rid of all the rice, bread, pasta, sugar, and anything else that falls in the category of SAD foods (SAD stands for the Standard American Diet).

I was doing this part in increments as my husband had not jumped on the same bandwagon as me. I was looking in the refrigerator and something caught my eye. Shoved way in the back was a giant bag of baker’s yeast. This bag is a remnant of when my mother used to live with us. She wanted to bake bread, and to do that you need yeast.

the staff of life for some, but not me

Looking at the bag brought back a flood of memories. Back in the day, when I was growing up, my mother would always bake bread for us. Both she and my father grew up during the Depression and that’s what families did. They also didn’t like the flavor and texture of “Store Bought” bread. Every week my mother would go into a whirlwind and bake several loaves of bread or a dozen or so buns, and we would all wait for them to cool off just enough, and then we would slather the bread with real butter and enjoy the flavors of butter melting into warm wheat bread.

My mother… back in the day

Many years later, my mother developed a bit of arthritis in her hands, and could no longer knead the dough, so my father volunteered to take over the bread making duties. Now, my mother is the kind of cook who just does everything on the fly, tossing in ingredients by hand, never using a measuring tool, she could just judge by looking at it, if there was enough salt, or oil, or flour. My father was Mr. Precise. When he took over he researched recipes, he bought a baking cloche, and he experimented with combinations of white flour, wheat flour, eggs, no eggs. Again, I would wait patiently for those new loaves of bread, or sometimes cinnamon rolls, to cool off just enough, so I could slather on the butter and enjoy the fruits of his labors.

My father… in a thoughtful mood

My father died ten years ago, and since then my mother has enlisted the help of a stand-up mixer with a bread hook, which made the mixing easier. But the enthusiasm for baking weaned as her Parkinson’s progressed. Now that she is living in a care home, one of her first complaints is about they bread. They bake their own rolls, but they use mostly white flour, and mom misses the flavor in whole wheat.

Looking at that bag of yeast in the refrigerator, I enjoyed looking back at our life, and knowing that my parents thought they were making healthy choices at the time. Now, I know better. That it was probably that wonderful bread that helped establish my cravings for all things carbohydrate. As much as I love my parents, and everything they have done for me, it is time for me to make the food choices that work best for myself. I took that bag of yeast and with at “thanks mom, thanks dad,” I dumped it right in the trash.

I like so many women I know, have suffered greatly from the myth that  “Food is Love.”  Food is food. And love is love. For those of us who have packed on the pounds, mixing up those two ideas lays squarely at the heart of the problem. We talk about all the foods that we “love” and “can’t live without.” Truth is, there are lots of great foods we can eat that fill us with the energy and nutrition that we need. But the key is eating the “whole” food, as close to as it exists in nature as possible. As soon as you start processing foods to extend their shelf life, you’re killing it, and making it something that will cause you problems in the long run.

I can report that in those first 27 days I have lost 9 pounds. I am sleeping soundly, I don’t miss the sweets. In fact my taste buds are now sensitive enough to taste the natural sugars in — lettuce. Yup, give me a cherry tomato, it tastes like candy. Every now and again, I will have a bite — one bite — of bread, as in one crouton. Or one corner of a pita bread. It’s fine, it still tastes great, but I no longer crave it and I would much rather slather butter over a pile of steamed spinach or use it to saute some mushrooms.

Are there any old food habits from childhood, or family “traditions” that in the light of adulthood, no longer suit you? I’d love to hear what you have to say. And as always, thank you so much for stopping by.

 

Hello, My Name is Rachel…. I am a Negligent Blogger

08 Wednesday Aug 2012

Posted by Rachel Funk Heller in Goofball Nonsense, Grattitude, Inspiration, Transcendantly yours, WANA Love

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blogging, creativity, Love, party, refresh, WANA

Sigh… yeah, I been a baaad blogger. Because, duh… I haven’t been posting. Yes, oh blog-o-shphere, after all that work to create this site and fill it with what I hope is decent content, I lost steam. I let me self get caught up in — life. I had to take a hard look at what I want to do with my blog and a hard look at who I am as a writer and a web denizen citizen.

Because I let all the distractions…. distract me, I haven’t touched my WIP in a week and I haven’t posted here in a month..egads! And I’m sure there are lots of other bloggers who have suffered from the same great enthusiasm for the shiny new toy and then all the maintenance issues show up and it would be so much easier to just do something else.

But, as I have said many, many times before — I am a very lucky girl. I took the time to get in touch with Jenny Hansen, the blog maven over at More Cowbell blog. If you haven’t met Jenny, you are in for a treat. She is kind, generous, intelligent… and talks finds hidden humor in her spam folder and other places. But I told her that I was having a hard time really figuring out what to do with my blog. And she shared a couple of great strategies. One thing she told me, she thinks of a great blog is the on-line equivalent of a great party. You stop by, there are interesting tidbits, you meet some new people, life is good. I thought, heck, what’s not to love about that? I love throwing parties, I love showing people a good time, making sure they are taken care of and that they fell their time attending the party was worth it. That was my big worry about my blog, I don’t want to waste people’s time, and thought I had to write really in-depth, deep, meaningful work. But a digital party? Let’s bust out the sparkly lights and the margaritas.

Then I had the fabulous opportunity to meet Social Media Jedi, Kristen Lamb when I attended Thrillerfest in New York City.

From L to R: Ingrid Schaffenburg, Rachel Funk Heller, Kristen Lam, August McLaughlin

In between sessions, parties, radio interviews, more parties, brain storming sessions, and a few more parties — I finally had the chance to talk to Kristen about my blog. I originally took Kristen’s blogging class way back in October of last year, but we never got around to talking about my log line. I shared with her some of what I was interested in (the 100 word exercise) and she immediately came up with: Social Alchemy.

How perfect is that! It’s a great definition because I adore people I love meeting folks from all walks of life, I’ve been so lucky to have been able to meet so many great writers through the WANA class, and then to have the chance to meet them in person was such a delight. We truly are not alone, and we are creating bonds of friendship that grow richer with each blog post, comment, and “like.”

As for the Alchemy part, I have always been a seeker on the path to a deeper understanding of self-awareness. And there are a vast way to explore that which go far back in time — the Tarot, the I Ching, Astrology, Alchemy — these tools help us learn what we are about on a deeper psychological and spiritual level. That we are more than just the mundane, that we have the capacity to understand more than just the surface parts of life.  To that end, I’ve posted this entry on August 8, the day Mercury goes Direct. Read one of my favorite astrologers, Ralfee Finn to find out what that means.

Now if that is not reason enough to throw a party, I don’t know what is. So that’s my job, to be your Social Alchemist, to bring you the best and brightest from where I sit in the blog-o-sphere and to be humble and grateful that you all have decided to show up. On Mondays I’ll share with you those things that give me inspiration, those things in life that fill me with gratitude, because that always makes Mondays feel less burdensome. Wednesdays I’ll be bringing the best tips and ideas for all my fellow writer peeps, and Fridays will just be fun. I have a lot of creative pals out there who dredge up all sorts of things, so look out, Fridays at Social Alchemy will be a chance to take a break and smile. It will include the Mash-Ups-of-Love, my take on what’s worth reading and checking out, web-wise.

I’m so looking forward to a fresh start and bringing all of you along for the ride. I’ve changed my banner photo, because hey, let’s not limit ourselves to black and white, let’s live it in color! What do you think? Have you any tales of blog abandonment? What’s the toughest part about blogging? And what are your favorite blog blues remedies? I love hearing a from you, and please feel free to comment and share your thoughts.

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